Here, Let Me Pay…

 

So, Pinterest got the better of you and you’re looking at your ‘Perfect Wedding’ being quite a bit over budget. What do you do? Well, the majority of us would say, “Perhaps you could scale back a little”, or “Can you postpone the wedding, so you can spend more time saving for it?” But, how many of you would say, “It’s ok, just charge the guests!” – I can imagine, that for most of us, that may well be a tad out of our comfort zone.

 

How Much?

 

The Lure…

However, this is a growing trend. It’s already common practice in Europe and the US: I recall a friend of mine being shocked that her American best friend expected her to pay for her own bridesmaid dress and that it (and its price tag) was pre-chosen. However, in the UK, it’s now starting to become more common too. The lure of that perfect dress, the ‘once in a lifetime’ honeymoon or the bespoke diamond-encrusted wedding bands becomes too much and the possibility of passing the financial burden of being able to afford it seems to present itself as a reality – to some.

Diamond-Encrusted Wedding Bands

The Theory…

There is a theory that attending a wedding costs a great deal in the first place – the hotel rooms, the gift, the drinks (few weddings have a free bar these days, sadly). Advocates of charging to attend a wedding believe that, if the average per head to attend – £217 – can be undercut with a ticket, that the guests can save money. But, it’s a risky idea – they’re still going to spend their own money on fuel, they’ll still (hopefully – maybe not) buy you a wedding gift – what is charging them really going to gain them in the long run. A fair few years of resentment, I’m guessing, and probably a disinvite to any future weddings that they’re hosting.

 

Paying the Bill

The Reality…

Is it ever justified to charge for your wedding? Well of course, in some countries, that’s an offensive question – it’s common practice and therefore not seen as an issue. But here in the UK, it’s practically unheard of – a recent survey found that just 7% of UK couples would even consider it. Plus, it can get a few backs up. It’s quite possible that if you do charge, although you’ll find many will pay and come – because they don’t feel at the time that they can say no, or you do genuinely mean so much to them that not attending is just not an option, no matter what – your long-term friendships and family relationships may well suffer as a result. Is one day, albeit perfect in your mind, really worth that?

The Dream - Is it worth it?